It sometimes is easier to be married...in bed.

Think about it, in our moment of intimacy, do we hurl accusations at each other?  Are words misinterpreted?
No, sweet, sweet loving takes place.  Not just sexually.

Every person has that moment where we miss the mark in loving our spouse...outside the sheets- speaking here.

We get angry, we misinterpret what the other has said.
We get hurt. 

That's really the bottom line, isn't it?

We get hurt.

And the finger pointing blame game makes it worse.
Does it really matter?
Someone is hurting.  Period. 
A relationship has been wounded.

So how do we avoid missing the mark?
Well, I think it starts by knowing the truth.
We will miss the mark.     Our spouse will miss the mark.
We can never be perfect, we can never love our spouse the way God does.
And our spouse will never love us the way God does.
But if we fix our eyes on Jesus and his steadfast love for us, perhaps we will miss the mark LESS.  And so will our spouse.

And in fixing our eyes on Jesus, perhaps we can connect in different areas... on levels that have the same intimacy as our bodies do when marriage is celebrated sexually...
What would our marriage look like?

So let us love well...outside the sheets as well.